Its ok to talk about
Sex is a natural part of life and discussing it and any questions or issues you have should not be an embarrassing act that you dread, but rather something you feel comfortable doing.
It is important to remember that open disscussion about your sexual health is something that is vital between you and your doctor. Most importantly, it is something you should be talking about with your partner BEFORE you decide you are ready to have sex.
Part of being comfortable talking about sexual health is knowing that it is ok for you to say no. It is ok to wait. It is ok to not be ready. Don’t worry about people thinking your not cool, or your partner being angry. Anyone who does not respect your decision to not have sex is not worth your time.
If you are a lesbian, gay, transgender, or bi individual struggling with acceptance, lifestyle, bullying, or anything else there are place you can turn.
QLife provides nation-wide, early intervention, peer supported telephone and web based services to support lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and intersex (LGBTI) people of all ages.
LGBT Youths are just being themselves – don’t torment them for it. Their sexuality is as natural to them as your’s is to you.
When you eventually do decide to have sex (and this should be your decision, don’t let anyone rush you) you need to decide how you are going to stay safe.
There are various methods available to you depending on your situation. The most effective method is abstinence, but if you have decided to have sex you will need to explore other options. The two most popular options are the condom and the pill. It is a good idea to talk to your doctor to decide what method will work best for you.
Condoms are the most effective form of protection for preventing STIs. There are some STIs that can be transmitted by skin–to-skin contact, like genital warts, HPV and genital herpes and a condom will not provide 100% protection against these.
They are also largely effective in preventing pregnancy with an 82% success rate.
The advantages of choosing condoms are:
- They are inexpensive.
- You don’t have to see a doctor to get them.
- They are readily available in pharmacies, supermarkets, and service stations.
- That are non-invasive and do not alter your body’s chemical or hormone levels.
The pill is an effective form of birth control, however it will not prevent STI’s. If you and your partner choose this method you will both need to be tested for any STIs before you engage in sexual contact.
This method requires the female involved to bare a lot of responsibility. The pill is only effective if taken as directed, at the same time every day.
The advantages of the pill are:
- Can be used in combination with condoms for extra protection.
- Many girls report relief from acne, period pain, and PMS while on the pill.
- It prevents those “we don’t have a condom…” moments.